Don't Fall In Love.

Don't fall in love. Don't fall in love with the way he smiles when he sees you, with the crinkles of his eyes. Don't fall in love with the shape his mouth makes when he whispers your name, or the sound that follows. Don't fall in love with the way he sleeps, or even the tousle of his hair in the mornings. Don't fall in love with his company, with the feeling of having him close to you. Don't fall in love with how he makes you feel- happiness mostly, but with a tinge of everything else. Just don't, don't - don't fall in love.

Don't fall in love at first sight.
Love at first sight, it's like buying a new blouse without trying it on. It may look good on the rack, but without trying it on, how would you know if it'd fit, if it suited you? In fact, I don't really believe in love at first sight- there are definitely some rare cases, but most of the time, it's mere infatuation. It's taking all your desires, your hopes and your idea of a dream guy, and placing them with the idea of him. All you know about him is the little that he's told you, and everything else is what you want him to be. Take a step back, re-evaluate. Infatuation, not love.

Don't fall in love with your best friend.
He's the person you're most comfortable with, and falling for him may seem like the perfect end to your friendship. No. You've the perfect relationship, why risk it for something that may not work out in the end? Remind yourself that if it all comes crumbling down, you'll not only lose a lover, you'll lose your best friend as well.

Don't fall in love with that bad boy.
There's something about bad boys which seems to attract us girls. Maybe it's the opposites-attract factor, where he's the bad to your good? Maybe it's because you think you can be the one that makes him change. It doesn't work that way. Your bad boy is likely to be stubborn, and changing him is out of your hands. He has to make that change himself. It will take time, and by the time that happens, he'll have hurt you. Hold back your feelings for him, only fall for him once he's changed.

Don't fall in love with someone who's already taken.
It's agonising, not knowing where you stand. You read into everything they say and do, and yet all you come up with is a sheet full of contradictory evidence. Here's a newsflash: He's not for you. Either a) he just wants you as a friend, or b) he's using you. Either way, keep your distance. There's a distinct possibility that c) he may feel a little something for you as well - but in that case, why would you want to be the third party who breaks up their relationship?

Don't fall in love with the boy who's too good for you.
His love for you is so .. up there that you can't ever reciprocate in the same way. You love him, but not as much. Give it up, for you'll only end up hurting him. An unbalanced relationship where one loves more than the other, it's not healthy. One of you will probably end up being hurt, and it's more likely to be the lover, not the loved.

Don't fall in love with someone far away.
LDRs are hard. They take up so much effort and they can drain you emotionally. They keep you up at night worrying, sometimes even wondering if all of it is worth it. Is it really?

But then again,
I am a paradox, and I contradict myself.

Fall in love.
Fall in love because it can be the most beautiful thing that's ever happened to you. Take the chance and let yourself fall, because he may be not just your 'happily ever after', but your 'to be continued'. Fall in love because he may be the exception to the rule.

Or even if it doesn't, fall in love because, well, apparently it is better to have love and lost than never to have loved at all.